The Golden age in the Quran : 40 years ! why ? Discover it
Salam alaykm my beautiful sisters over 40 years. It is said that those who are 40 should have those characteristics,if they don’t then……., and if you are less than 40 and you got this characteristic then this is you got maturity from Quran and I asked Allah to make you and us among those who are mature. Amen
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The Golden Age
Whatever age we are, we are learning, but there is an age when it will be understood what we are talking about, and that is the age of 40. It is the only age mentioned in the Quran, subhan Allah.
Surah 46. Al-Ahqaf, Ayah 15
وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنْسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ إِحْسَانًا ۖ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ كُرْهًا وَوَضَعَتْهُ كُرْهًا ۖ وَحَمْلُهُ وَفِصَالُهُ ثَلَاثُونَ شَهْرًا ۚ حَتَّىٰ إِذَا بَلَغَ أَشُدَّهُ وَبَلَغَ أَرْبَعِينَ سَنَةً قَالَ رَبِّ أَوْزِعْنِي أَنْ أَشْكُرَ نِعْمَتَكَ الَّتِي أَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيَّ وَعَلَىٰ وَالِدَيَّ وَأَنْ أَعْمَلَ صَالِحًا تَرْضَاهُ وَأَصْلِحْ لِي فِي ذُرِّيَّتِي ۖ إِنِّي تُبْتُ إِلَيْكَ وَإِنِّي مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ
And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to hisparents. His mother bears him with hardship And she brings him forth with hardship, and the bearing of him, and the weaning of him is thirty months, till when he attains full strength and reaches forty years, he says: “My Lord! Grant me the power and ability that I may be grateful for Your Favour which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents, and that I may do righteous good deeds, such as please You, and make my off-spring good. Truly, I have turned to You in repentance, and truly, I am one of the Muslims (submitting to Your Will).”)
What is special about the age of 40? (َۖوَو َّصۡيَناٱۡۡلِنَسٰـَن ِبَوٲلَِدۡيِهٕاِۡحَسٰـًنا)
(And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents.):
Allah (swt) is advising you, oh human, to deal the best with your parents, in order to show that you are grateful to Allah (swt) because He brought forth the means of your parents to bring you to
existence. Sometimes you see people that are being good to their friends and not to their parents, subhan Allah. Even if you carry parents in tawaf around the ka’bah, you will not have fulfilled their rights. If they walk slow, you walk slower than them, and if they speak, you speak lower than them. You don’t joke with your parents the way you joke with your friends, you need to show respect.
o If a person is not good to his parents, then there is no good in that person, subhan Allah.
o And of the parents, there are more rights to the mother, and you realize this the most at the
age of 40, when you understand what it means to be a parent, subhan Allah. And she brings him forth with hardship, and the (وَحَمْلُهُ وَفِصَالُهُ ثَلَاثُونَ شَهْرًا ۚ حَتَّىٰ إِذَا بَلَغَ أَشُدَّهُ وَبَلَغَ أَرْبَعِينَ سَنَةً قَالَ رَبِّ أَوْزِعْنِي أَنْ أَشْكُرَ) ( bearing of him, and the weaning of him is thirty months): The period from pregnancy to weaning is 30 months, which is two and half years – there are two years for feeding, then people might say there are 9 months to a pregnancy, but the remaining 6 is to show that a baby can even survive on
its own if delivered by 6 months at least, subhan Allah – look at the miracle of the Quran. till when he attains full strength): Until he reaches the peak in strength – both( ) َحتى ٕاِ َذا َبلَغ ٔاَشده( physically and mentally. So this is the best age for the body and maturity. This is the age when emotions are settled and balanced, even the understanding will be different. Your understanding of the Quran and knowledge is better at the age of 40 than before. and reaches forty years): this is the age of maturity, when emotions are settled, and( ) َو َبلَغاَ ۡر َب ِعين َسنة( it is called (سن الكمال) – the perfect age, why? Because of the dua’a they make. In this dua’a they will be very sensitive to the gifts of Allah Al Wahab. They will realize the gifts, not only on themselves, but also on others – their children and their parents, subhan Allah. When you are sensitive to recognize the gifts of Allah (swt) on yourself and others, then this is a sign of maturity. So a key to maturity is to be sensitive and appreciative of the gifts, subhan Allah. Sometimes you find people above the age 40 and they are complaining and those who are younger than 40 and they are appreciative, subhan Allah.
The Dua’a They Make:
(َقا َل َرب ٔاَۡوِزۡعِنى ٔاَۡن ٔاَۡشكَر ِنۡعَمَتك) (He says: “My Lord! Grant me the power and ability that I may be grateful for Your Favour): He is asking Allah (swt) by His name of Ar Rabb, meaning he had to be nurtured. When you see yourself complaining about your children, you will find that Allah (swt) will nurture you, so you might find yourself in a gathering, and someone is saying I don’t have children, and then it hits you to not complain and be thankful for what you have. Or you complain about your back and then you hear that someone has cancer, and it hits you to not complain and be thankful, subhan Allah. So what makes you to be upgraded and nurtured, by the situations, but that is the long way. And if you want to be nurtured the short way, learn from the Quran. Anyone who is taking the path to acquire knowledge, then Allah (swt) will make easy his path to paradise, subhan Allah.
o (ٔاَۡوِزۡعِنى):He is saying that he wants to thank Allah(swt)because he sees so many gifts,and he doesn’t know how to thank Allah because he is overwhelmed with the blessings. So he is asking Allah (swt) to guide him and inspire him to be grateful for all of the blessings of Allah (swt). What are these blessings?
.Blessings of the duniya and akhira: spouse, children, wealth, friends,knowledge, faith, etc 🙂 ِنعمتك( Can you count the blessings of Allah (swt), no. So you are asking Allah (swt) to guide you to thank Him for His blessings.
(ٱلَِّتىٔاَۡنَعۡمت َعلَى)(You have bestowed upon me)
(َو َعلَى َوٲلِد َّى ) (and upon my parents): You will appreciate the blessings on your parents, because when
Allah (swt) blessed your parents, you are a recipient of those blessings too. For example, when Allah (swt) blessed your parents with wealth, deen, etc it also affects you, subhan Allah. So while make this dua’a they are feeling helpless on how to thank Allah (swt). That is why after the prayer we say Oh Allah help me to remember You, thank You, and worship( )هللا اعني على ذكرك و شكرك و حسن عبادتك( You in excellence). You are not making a dua’a to make you patient, but to be grateful, and this shows you it is higher to be grateful. That is why the Prophet (pbuh) said the rich, grateful man is better than the poor, patient man. Why? Because the rich man can easily be distracted with his wealth and forget to be grateful, whereas the poor man does not have in order to be distracted, subhan Allah.
o Be like the eyes of the bee, always looking at flowers, at what is beautiful, don’t be like the eyes of the fly which is looking at trash. Look at the positives and good, don’t look at what is negative and bad. And you will see that when you look at good, you will produce good, you will say good, but if you look at things as being, then you will produce bad, always complaining, subhan Allah. whatever comes to you or is with you,or anything do not complain, they see the beautiful side of people, they don’t complain about anyone. they don’t make enmity,they don’t divide .They will be composed,patient They see the positive in everyone and everything.Even a worst situation happened they will give excused and see the positive side .Because they see it as gift from Allah. They have the maturity of understanding. Doing the opposite show ungratefulness to Allah and immaturity. subhanaAllah
(َؤاَۡنٔاَۡعَمَل َصٰـلًًِ۬حاَتۡر َضٰٮه)(and that Imay do righteous good deeds,such as please You):You are asking Allah (swt) to guide you to perform righteous good deeds which are pleasing to Him. You are asking Allah (swt) to bring to you good deeds that will be free of shirk, riya’a, etc that will be pleasing to Him. That is why your goal is the pleasure of Allah (swt), and this shows you that we are nothing, and we cannot depend on our knowledge and power – we have to make dua’a to even be able to perform the good deeds, we cannot rely on ourselves, subhan Allah. When Allah (swt) is pleased with your deeds, then you will be rewarded. You don’t want to do good deeds for yourself or others, otherwise it would be in vain and a waste of time.
(َؤاَ ۡصلِح لِى ِفى ذر َّيتى ) (and make my off-spring good): now you see why it is an age of maturity, subhan Allah. It means, reform for me, oh Allah, not only my children, but my offspring until the Day of Judgement, subhan Allah. We all have faults, so you are asking Allah (swt) to take care of my offspring that I will not see, subhan Allah. Allah (swt) is nurturing your children, not you – He is taking care of them because they are His creation before they are your children, subhan Allah. Before you are a mother, Allah (swt) is Ar Rabb – The Nurturer, The Caretaker, subhan Allah.
o (لِى): for me, and this will benefit you. When Allah (swt) is making your offspring righteous, then that will benefit you. Because after you die, three things will benefit you – an ongoing charity, knowledge that is beneficial to others, and a righteous child that makes dua’a for you.
o This dua’a is wider, you don’t just want your children to be reformed, but all of your offspring.
(ٕاِنى تۡبت ٕاِلَۡي َك َوٕاِنىمن ٱۡلم ۡسلِ ِمين) (Truly, I have turned to You in repentance, and truly, I am one of the Muslims (submitting to Your Will)): you are repenting to Allah (swt) for all your sins and affirming that you are of the Muslimeen. That is why anyone who is making this dua’a with heart, then they are stable, their emotions are balanced, and they recognize the gifts of Allah (swt) and are grateful for it.
So these are four things very essential to maturity, subhan Allah.
Ya Allah grant us maturity and sensitivity to all kind if gift(Husband,wife,children,friend,wealth,knowledge…) Ya Allah grant us among the Shakireen. Amen