Day 7 : Sincerity is the way of Salvation (الاجلاص طريق الخلاص ) by Ustadha Eman Al Obaid (HafidhaAllah)
Day 7 : Sincerity is the way of salvation
Ustadha Eman started praising Allah (swt) and sending dua for the students.
Elhamdellah made it easy for us to study Al Ikhlas When Allah (swt) make us study it its a huge blessing from Allah (swt) . You also need to have Al Ikhlas I your emotions . Yesterday we talked about how to be sincere in the love . Today we will talk about how to be sincere in relationship in general .
Human being is social by nature ,but how to be sincere in relationship ? And does Allah (swt) say about sincerity in relation ?
In all relationship there is love ,sittings which each other , visiting and gifting .
Divine Hadith: (فإني سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول: ” قال الله تعالى وجبت محبتي للمتحابين فيَّ، والمتجالسين فيَّ ، والمتزاورين فيَّ ، والمتباذلين فيَّ “) (I heard Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) saying, ‘Allah, the Exalted, says: My love is due to those who love one another for My sake, meet one another for My sake, visit one another for My sake and spend in charity for My sake”.) – Malik Book 1, Hadith 382 in Riyadh As Saliheen
Allah (swt) love is obligatory on them ( وجبت محبتي) those having relation with each other for the sake of Allah (swt) .
Those who love each other for my sake (المتحابين في)
Those who sitting with each other for my sake (والمتجالسين في)
Those who visiting each other for my sake (والمتزاورين في)
Those who giving each other for my sake (والمتباذلين في)
This is an invitation to be sincere in relationship which is based on love , sitting ,visiting and gifting
I- Those who love each other for my sake ( للمتحابين في)
When you will do this for then the love of Allah (swt) will be on them .
The author talk about how to be sincere in love and again she mentioned about Al Ikhlas in the love . The love is something very common where people doesn’t do Al Ikhlas . That is why he focus about it as people don’t know or misunderstand it .
The sincerity in the love (الاخلاص في المحبة )
Know that ,May Allaah have mercy on you (اعلموا بارك الله فيكم )
The love for Allah is complete love for Allah ( بان المحبة في الله من تمام محبة الله ) :If you love for the sake of Allah (swt) there is no wordily benefit it’s a complete love of Allah (swt) .
The love of Allah required what He loves ( فان محبة الله تقتض محبة ما يحب)As result of your love for Allah (swt) you love everybody for the sake of Allah (swt) .Because the love for Allah (swt) implies whatever Allah (swt) loves You see what naturally if your fired love something you will also love , as for Allah (swt) you will love what He loves .
And you love everything which help you to love Him and make you reach to His pleasure and His closeness (ومحبة ما يعين علي حبه يوصل الي رضاه وقربه)
For example you love a person , with complete love you will love all the friends that person love . You will do whatever please your friend automatically, and to Allah (swt) belongs the best example, you will love everybody who Allah (swt) loves and you love all the deeds which takes you close to Allah (swt) ,
Hadith: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: (ما من رجلَينِ تحابَّا في اللهِ بظهرِ الغيبِ إلا كان أحبُّهما إلى اللهِ أشدَّهما حُبًّا لصاحبِه) (No two people love each other for the sake of Allah in absence except the one more beloved to Allah is the one loving the other person more) – الراوي : أبو الدرداء المحدث : الألباني المصدر : صحيح الترغيب الصفحة أو الرقم: 3016 خلاصة حكم المحدث : صحيح
There is no two people who love each other for the sake of Allah (swt) ,unseen ,none of the, those they love each other for the sake of Allah (swt) , no any benefit just for the sake of Allah (swt) . Just in the heart they love in the heart and only Allah (swt) knows . Unless the one who love more is more beloved to Allah (swt) . Because of the intensity of the love for Allah (swt) . There is level in the love , there who has intense love is more beloved to Allah (swt) .
Whoever loves for Allah’s sake, then let him tell his companion that you love him for Allah (swt) and he is to reply to you by saying, May He love you Whom you loved me for His sake (و من أحب في الله فليقل لصاحبه أني أحبك في الله و هو يرد عليه أحبك الذي أحببتني من أجله). If you love a person for Allah (swt), then Allah (swt) will love you more, subhan Allah. It has to be a pure love with no worldly benefit or nothing in between, just Allah (swt).
Supposed you love sincerely for Allah (swt) ,you need to say it to the person : I love you for the sake of Allah (swt) and she will reply : May the One you love me for love you .because you love me for Allah (swt) sake may He loves you . If you love the person for Allah (swt) then Allah (swt) loves you more . Then you make a Dua .
Imagine X and Y love each other for the sake of Allah (swt), but X loves Y more which only Allah (swt) knows, so Allah (swt) loves X more. And no one knows how much you sincerely love except Allah (swt), there has to be no worldly benefit. Even to be sincere in love has different levels, subhan Allah.
This is the sincere love , free from wanting of yourself , it’s the positive love , the love for Allah (swt) will never make you sad , angry ,any negative emotions .because you love for Allah (swt) and Allah (swt) will bless this love because of His sake and it will effect the person negatively. Love shouldn’t make us cry . It’s only for Allah (swt) .
Love for Allah (swt) is not just a word but it’s a love in the heart that has impacts (المحبة في الله ليست كلمة فقط انما محبة في القلب لها آثار), these are the requirements if you truly love someone for Allah (swt):
You need to advice Him ( ناصحا له)
You need to give him victory (ناصرا له بمنعه من الظلم و المعصية ) support Him from oppression and stopping Him for Allah (swt) ,not scolding Him and backbite him . Not when he does a sin you leave him but you support him.
You support him in obedience (ناصرا له في الطاعة ) you always encourage him for the obedience .
You hate for him the evil as you hate it for yourself ( وتكره له الشر ما تكره لنفسك) . How much you hate the evil for yourself then you hate it for him . And Allah (swt) knows .
You love for goodness for him as you love it for yourself (تحب له الخير ما تحب لنفسك)
You defend his chastity and honor( يدافع عن عرضه) . Anybody talked bad him you also defend him in his back
In his absence you will do Dua for him ( داعيا له في غيبته بالخير) , you are not doing Dua in his face but in his back . This is a sincere Dua . Even when we are speaking to each other . Sometimes I want to closer to a person so you tell them you make dua for them . Keep the Dua secret in their back .
You will help him for His Dua (معينا علي دنياه) if you are capable you will help Him .
II-Those who sitting with each other for my sake : even with the sitting you need to be sincere . Not for the person or desires . You need to purify the sitting for the sake of Allah (swt) . For example you are two people ,one is your friend and the other is not your friends. You see you have tendency to sit with your friend, but when you don’t mind sitting with the one you don’t known you are doing Al Ikhlas . It’s more difficult to do Ikhlas with someone you love . It just teaching us moderation in the relation . You will have a good face with everybody ,because you are sincere . You love people for Allah (swt) because of the religion , not just sit for the sake of sitting. That’s why the best place of sitting is the study circle . This is the best sitting as we are talking about Allah (swt) . The moment you sit for some desires it will remove the purity in the sitting . Imagine this is the best sitting , is the siting for Allah (swt) . The people of Dunya are sitting for the Dunya , you need to check the meaning of why you are siting ? Desires or Allah (swt) . Al Ikhlas fil mujaalasa is sitting for Allah (swt) , al Ikhlas is so much reward , and it needs jihad.
Sitting with sincere people in order to help for the good , you are choosing those you are sitting with . We are talking about How your sitting will be a worship .
Hadith: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: (هُمْ الْقَوْمُ، لَا يَشْقَى بِهِمْ جَلِيسُهُمْ) (He who sits with such people shall not suffer) – Muslim Hadith 14
Shaytan always want to spoil us , if you want the sitting to be forever then you do it for Allah (swt) .
The Companions would sit with each other in order to remember Allah (swt) and draw closer to Him (مجالس الصحابة عامرة بذكر الله و ما يقرب منه). If a gathering is going to increase me in faith, then it’s better to sit, but if a gathering is going to decrease me in faith and take me further away from Allah (swt), then better not to sit, subhan Allah.
The two Companions Aswad bin Hilal said to Mu’adh let us sit together and believe for an hour, meaning remember Allah (swt) (عن الأسود بن هلال قال قال لي معاذ اجلس بنا نؤمن ساعة، اي نذكر الله). We’re not talking about halal and haram, but it’s upgrading in your sitting. As your faith increases, you will eliminate gatherings just for the sake of gathering because you know your time is precious.
§ Hadith: (إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم خَرَجَ عَلَى حَلْقَةٍ مِنْ أَصْحَابِهِ فَقَالَ ” مَا يُجْلِسُكُمْ ” . قَالُوا جَلَسْنَا نَذْكُرُ اللَّهَ وَنَحْمَدُهُ لِمَا هَدَانَا لِلإِسْلاَمِ وَمَنَّ عَلَيْنَا بِهِ . فَقَالَ ” آللَّهِ مَا أَجْلَسَكُمْ إِلاَّ ذَاكَ ” . قَالُوا آللَّهِ مَا أَجْلَسَنَا إِلاَّ ذَاكَ . قَالَ ” أَمَا إِنِّي لَمْ أَسْتَحْلِفْكُمْ لِتُهْمَةٍ لَكُمْ إِنَّهُ أَتَانِي جِبْرِيلُ فَأَخْبَرَنِي أَنَّ اللَّهَ يُبَاهِي بِكُمُ الْمَلاَئِكَةَ “) (Indeed the Messenger of Allah came out upon a circle of his Companions and said: ‘what has caused you to gather for this sitting?’ They said: ‘We have gathered for this sitting to remember Allah, and praise Him for His having guided us to Islam, and having bestowed blessings upon us.’ So he said: ‘By Allah, nothing caused you to gather for this sitting except for that?’ He said: ‘Indeed, I did not ask you out of suspicion, verily Jibra’il came to me and informed me that Allah boasts of you to the angels.’”) – Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3379
So when you are sitting for the sake of Allah (swt) , Allah (swt) will talk about your magnificent and goodness in Front the Angels .
Yubaahi to show your goodness ( يباهي)
Allah (swt) Who is above the seven heavens will tell the angels look at My servants and praise them for their good deeds (يباهي يظهر فضلكم و يريهم حسن عملكم و يثني عليكم). The angels are so pure, but when you are pure on the earth then Allah (swt) will talk about your sincerity above the seven heavens.
Allah (swt) praising them ( ) , Allah (swt) will tell the Angels about you .